We went out to dinner with friends and did not drink – so we didn’t think we should have to pay as much of the share of the bill as the other guests, but someone told the waiter to “just split the check.” How could we have handled this – we ended up paying $30 each for two hamburgers!

It can be difficult to split checks fairly without antagonizing anyone in the process. To avoid any conflict you could talk openly with your friends about sharing the bill before going out to dinner.

At the restaurant, the best method is to ask the server if he or she can provide your party with separate checks. Even if the restaurant does not provide this option, asking this question will show everyone that you are only willing to pay for your portion.

As the time approaches to receive the bill let your friends clearly know that everyone is responsible for paying for their own meals. If the group’s meals are charged to one friend’s credit card, make sure to pay them for your entire meal, including tip.

Dr. Gelasia Marquez is a psychologist and family counselor.