Father Joe: Many Catholics worry about loved ones who have drifted away from the Church. It’s important to recognize that even those who no longer attend Mass often still identify as Catholic. That identification is a starting point — a connection we can affirm and gently nurture.

There are many reasons why someone might stop attending Mass. Some simply fall out of the habit. Others may have experienced hurt, disappointment, or confusion. The key is to listen with compassion and without judgment. Understanding the reason behind their absence helps us respond in a way that invites rather than alienates.

For those who have simply drifted, a heartfelt invitation to “come home” can be powerful. For those carrying wounds, more time, care, and trust may be needed. Avoid trying to “fix” their story; instead, offer patience and empathy.

Above all, your personal witness is your most effective tool. A joyful faith, lived with sincerity, can speak volumes. Mention a meaningful homily, a parish Bible study you’ve enjoyed, or share an article from Gulf Coast Catholic. A Catholic book or podcast as a Christmas gift may plant seeds of curiosity and renewal.

Research shows that people are more likely to return to the Church after attending nonliturgical events. Consider inviting your family members to help decorate the church, attend a concert, volunteer for a charitable outreach, or join a parish social gathering. These can be less intimidating ways to reconnect with the life of the Church.

Most importantly, pray for them. Light a candle during Advent. Ask the Blessed Mother, St. Joseph, and their patron saints to intercede for them. Entrust them to their guardian angel. Prayer opens hearts in ways we cannot.

Be patient, be hopeful, and above all, be loving. Let Christ shine through you — and trust Him to do the rest.