Many parents struggle to find the right balance between providing support and encouraging independence. This new chapter for parents and their children can be both exciting and scary. Their relationship can greatly impact how this process unfolds. 

In this article, I will explore Catholic principles that can guide parents through this phase. I will provide practical advice, including keeping communication open, establishing boundaries that honor their growing independence, and supporting their spiritual development, even from a distance. Additionally, I will discuss ways to maintain a strong connection through shared traditions and values. 

Be prepared for a wide range of emotions

Graduating high school is a major life milestone, and even the most confident teens may experience unexpected feelings. While there likely will be excitement about new beginnings and a sense of accomplishment, there may also be anxiety about the future. 

For example, some teens may experience sadness about leaving familiar settings or may have concerns about what lies ahead. Some teens might express their emotions by becoming distant, being irritable, or picking fights, while others may seek extra closeness and reassurance. These reactions are all completely normal. Your role is to offer steady support as they process this major transition in their own way. 

Communication is key 

Communication continues to be important through this new milestone. Be available to listen when they need you and offer advice if they ask. Be sure to offer them encouragement and be understanding if they get busy. They still love you but sometimes they might need extra space or time.  

Establish boundaries 

Boundaries may look different depending on what your child’s post-high school plans are. If your child begins college this fall, the young adult will likely be faced with questions and decisions. While it is our nature to want to jump right in, fight the urge to make decisions for them. If your child is joining the military or starting full-time employment, it will be important to give them even more freedom. 

If you have openly communicated with them as they have grown up, they will probably feel comfortable letting you know if and when they need your advice or help. It is important that they have the opportunity to make their own decisions, even if these decisions are different from what we would have done.  

Supporting spiritual development  

Even though your child may not still be in your home all year-round, you can still support their spiritual growth and development. Be sure to encourage personal prayer and reflection. 

If they are going off to college, you might also encourage them to join campus ministry. If they are moving away for a job, help them locate a local parish. 

You can also stay connected through spiritual traditions such as praying together through a Zoom call. You might also share faith-based books or podcasts with them.  

Staying connected  

If your child is going to college, it’s good to know that most universities offer resources for parents through newsletters or social media groups. These communications and platforms can help you know about events and information that can be useful to you and your child. 

Social media groups also can build a community between parents, which can be a great support system. If your child is joining the military, letters and care packages are always welcome.  

Take care of yourself, too 

Any big transition can bring a wave of emotions. Lean on your favorite self-care practices to help you navigate this new time in your lives. If you still have children at home, consider using this time to build deeper connections with them. If you are entering the empty nest stage, it might be the perfect opportunity to explore a new hobby or activity that you have always wanted to try. Remember, it’s completely normal to feel both joy and sadness at the same time. 

I hope that you will find these tips useful, and I wish you the best in this new stage of life!